Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

The Letter to Your Ex You REALLY Want To Write

• Sallyanne Hartnell

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NB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣

In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed.

I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.”

I talk through:

  • Why messages from ex-partners can land so powerfully, even years later
  • Writing a polite reply versus a truthful one
  • How writing it all out can bring clarity, release, and self-trust
  • Attachment patterns as context and an invitation for healing, not excuses
  • When compassion turns into self-abandonment
  • And how closure is something we create, not something we’re given

The episode includes a fictionalised reading of the letter she wrote - emotionally true, but anonymised and blended to protect identity.

If you’re struggling to let go or wondering about your ex. Maybe been activated by an unexpected message or meeting, and wondered why it affected you more than expected, this episode is for you.


Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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